I listened to a 4min piece on YouTube by Stephan Speaks called “Do You Need To Lower Your Standards.” an interesting 4 minute piece.
I agree with him, it’s not about lowering your standards but raising them, but in order to do so, you must have set your standards, in order to have a foundation to work from.
I love a passionate woman, that is a big reason I absolutely love LATIN WOMEN! For me it is because of there passion in almost everything they do. But when it comes to women in general, the woman I’m going to be in a relationship with and spend the rest of my life with will need to feed my Physical, Mental and Spiritual appetite you notice I didn’t include Financial. She doesn’t need to meet them all equally 33%. It is ok if there is a 75%, 20%, 5% breakdown. I’ll use the analogy (as long as she can show up at the game prepared with her Home, Away & Practice Jersey) she is good to go with me. this means she is ready for any game scenario.
We here people say I don’t want to get involved with someone that has drama in there life. Well let me tell you this at this stage of our life 40+, EVERYONE has ISSUES or DRAMA of some type. We are not perfect so I don’t judge and as I mentioned this is why when I meet a woman that I think has the potential of someone special I start fresh and don’t want to go into there past unless it is absolutely something they feel I need to know. This allows me to get to know them from a fresh perspective without being clouded with a jaded viewpoint.
Just because a person was a certain way years ago or did something in a past relationship doesn’t mean they are that person today. Kind of like when a judge says strike that from the records the reason a lawyer will do that even though they know it may get stricken by the judge is because humans can’t easily forget so even though the judge said forget about that statement, in the back of the jurors mind they still think about it.
I agree 100%. For me it’s not about her job, her car, her million dollar home, if she can feed my (body, mind & soul) sorry for being cliché-ish, then she has the foundation of what is important to me. EVERYONE has a Good, Bad & Ugly side but as long as she feeds that part of my hunger I can cope with everything else.
Take me as I am! Flaws and all…
Growth is necessary. When your Green you Grow, When Your Ripe You ROT. I’m sorry to tell you but, relationships take work. God is a God of structure. When Adam relinquished the keys to Earth to Satan, he then introduced Chaos. Chaos is the natural order of things in this sin lad-den world. So if you don’t want chaos in a relationship, YOU MUST PUT IN THE WORK.
You may hear, this person has issues and has a partner. But we all have issue of some sort. The question is on what level of importance do you place those issues?
Myles Munroe said it perfectly. Why do people try to come up with PERMANENT SOLUTIONS for a temporary problem. ALL problems in life are temporary. For some it may last days or weeks and for others months or years but for NO ONE do those problems last a lifetime unless your not willing to do anything to correct them.
People are FRONTING!!!
As you’ve probably heard the phrase, there is there side, my side and the TRUTH.
When you can meet a partner that is ready to accept your flaws and know that together with GOD it will all work itself out and most importantly to know you have someone in your life that is willing to be there to pick you up when you fall. Because trust me, WE ALL FALL at some point in our life.
When you fall in the mud are you with someone that is ready to get there $2,000 suit or dress dirty for you?
Tap into your energy.
When I finally took the time to understand what I want and need from a partner and what I need to do to make myself a better man is when everything clicked for me to know I’m ready and I know that when a woman comes into my life with the foundation pieces that are most important for me then I know everything else, the flaws, baggage and drama are temporary and together we can find a solution to those temporary problems.
For me and what I think is the case with most men is naturally, we are PROVIDERS, DOERS and Problem SOLVERS so we don’t tend to care about the material things because most men want to think of themselves as the bread winner and the financial foundation. We want a woman that makes us look good, feel good and there love and feminine energy.
When you watch a movie like Pretty Woman and wonder how a millionaire man that can have anything would want a pole dancer or as would call a Chik-Fil-A girl. That is because any man with structure, a foundation in what he wants and desires (she look good, makes me feel good and there love and feminine energy is more important than her being the CEO of any Fortune 500 company etc…
