Since February is considered the month of love in the USA. The next two post will be a little different. They will discuss love and relationships.
In this post I’m going to address 4 Needs of a Woman. Obviously there are probably many more but for today, lets just talk about these four items I’m about to mention.
Let me begin by saying I”M NO RELATIONSHIP COACH!
When you read 1 Peter 3:7 (Words to a husband) it says
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Based on this verse the 4 items I want to address are:
- Unhurried, Uninterrupted conversations – A woman’s need for Quality Time
- Her need for Understanding – Things that matter to her
- Creative Date Nights – Her need to be Valued – Outside of God, no one else comes first
- Security – Her need to be Protected – Safe place to land and not feel the need to be strong, (Physically protected, Financially Covered , Emotionally Safe) A safe environment to share her deepest regrets, securities and failures.
It is said on average woman say 8,000 words in a day and men 2,000. Many men will complain that women talk to much and when they want to talk to us, we’re usually not in the mood. We’ve had a busy day at work and when we come home we don’t want to concentrate and focus on listening to our better half, we just want to relax. Many woman love a man that stimulates them intellectually.
HOW MANY MEN have failed to understand a woman, not only in the context of emotional and sexual affirmation, but also on the level of intellectual stimulation that a woman of passion and reason craves and desires?
Generally, a woman can be attracted to a man because of his looks and physical appearance. However, the moment he speaks, he will either arouse her curiosity or bore her to death.
She may intermittently yawn or twirl her hair with her fingers as a sign of discontent in front of a boring or insensitive person. But when a woman’s blood rushes toward her cheeks, and her eyes glow with indescribable radiance, it is an inevitable sign that she is at the peak of her intellectual and emotional experience. A good lover does not necessarily need an Adonis’ physique or material possessions to impress a woman -– but wit, passion, and humor -– a rational mind and a sensitive heart to stimulate the recesses of her soul. dannysillada.weebly.com
What most men don’t realize is that when woman are talking to us they are usually telling us something because they love us and want us to understand them.
This is KEY: When woman love us, they talk and tell us what we’re doing well so we keep doing it or what we are doing wrong so we don’t. When a woman gets fed up and stops talking to us, that is when we have REAL PROBLEMS. When a woman is done with us men, they are usually done for good. So men try to be understanding and listen.
But women please remember it is a man’s nature to be fixer’s and providers so cut us some slack because not all men get this.
Women must remember they are a WOMAN and a WIFE. Just as a man is a MAN and a HUSBAND. It is very important to remember this because when many young woman bring a new life into the world it is very easy for the woman to forget she is a WOMAN/WIFE and just focus on being a MOM. What I mean is they start to pay less attention to the man’s needs and wants and put more attention on the newborn. Yes of course that new bundle of joy needs lots of attention but woman please don’t forget about your man!!!
Weekly or monthly date-nights are VITAL. Take the time MEN to let your Woman know they still drive you wild and you enjoy the quality alone time together and the same goes for you women.
REMEMBER MEN: Never Stop Courting Your Woman!!!
Men in general focus on being providers, it’s in our nature but for women, they tend to want security. Security is very important to a woman. Building a strong foundation with your spouse is vital because Men if you don’t, when you go through a financial crisis or crisis in general it will show what the two of you are made of. The better your foundation, the more likely you will be able to handle the trouble times financially or others that creep into your life.
Ephesians 5:33 it says: However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Bottom line, women tend to want security. Financial, emotional, Physical, Spiritual. And men want and need respect more than love. When a woman respects a man, love will eventually follow.
Women need love, Men need respect.
